The astrological houses sometimes cause a bit of confusion for non-astrologers, because people don't know what the houses are, but if you substitute the words "area of life experience" for "house" that will give you a better understanding of what they mean in a real life context.
The fifth house is one which most people can readily understand as it's concerned with relationships, the friendships we make and the experiences and real life lessons - both good and bad - that we gain from them.
Quoting from The Cosmic Egg Timer, I say that
The 5th house is, in a sense, a place of self-discovery. This is an area
where we venture forth from the collective to explore ourselves in
contact with the world and participate in the Games People Play. It is
an extrovert place where we are likely to be full of self-belief,
flamboyance and even bravado as we go out on our journey of conquest. We
like to be involved with people, have a good time, and our conquests may
well involve the opposite sex; these may produce the other aspect of
this house – creativity, whether this be babies or works of art.
The downside in this area of life is that when our conquests don’t
produce the results we need to make us feel special, we feel rejected
and insecure. We may attempt to possess somebody and hold him/ her as a
personal prize in order to prove how good we are.
Musing on this, alongside my own life experiences in this house/area of life, I consider myself lucky to have true friends, people I trust. I've known some of them for years. But there have been others along the way who initially presented themselves as friends, but turned out not to be so, and were not to be trusted. In this way, the fifth house can be a learning ground, filled with real life experiences which are not always pleasant, but which offer important lessons for self understanding and personal growth.
Friendship and fun with a true friend is something to treasure and cultivate. Friends can laugh together, do things together, trust each other and share confidences. A friend will support you, stay in touch, be there if you're going through a difficult time, remember your birthday, be kind to you, be honest with you, and not talk behind your back. And you can reciprocate by doing the same for them. It's a two-way traffic and you're equal partners.
Folly creeps in when someone purporting to be a friend proves to be anything but. You might blame yourself for being taken in by this person, for being taken for a fool, especially when you realise that this is a toxic relationship and you're being used, manipulated and controlled. You've been drawn into playing one of the many games people play in the arena of relationships. This is especially so where powerful emotions are involved, and your so-called friend - or maybe it's your ex - proves unworthy of your trust and reveals their true colours.
Of course, the boot could also be on the other foot and you may realise that you could be the one attempting to possess or control somebody and hold him or her as a
personal prize in order to gain power over them or prove something to yourself.
By waking up and being consciously aware of our own motivation and behaviour with the friends we relate to in this area of life we can, thankfully, begin to bypass the downside of these games - such as control and manipulation - and create lasting and worthwhile connections which are true, open, honest and beneficial to all concerned.
In fifth house friendships, as in all areas of life, there's always a choice between the darker alleyways and the path of light.
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